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The Fine Art of Delegating

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A couple of weeks ago I was ready to publish a new post. I had written the post the day before and wanted to do a final check before hitting publish. When I logged onto my blog that morning I was greeted with the dreaded screen of doom! My blog was down and I had no idea why! YEEK!!!

Outwardly I remained calm, but inwardly I was feeling something like this picture of my youngest son.

But not for long, because I knew that my talented tech guy was just an e-mail away. Sure enough I sent out a distress call and within in a few hours my blog was back up and running smoothly. PHEW!!

When I first decided to embark on this blogging adventure I recognized that I only had so much time I could devote to my blog. I had the skills I needed to write and publish posts, but when it came to the technical side of setting up a blog I knew nothing. Nada. Not even the basics.

I had a choice. I could spend hours and hours figuring out how to do it on my own, or I could pay someone to do it. For me the choice was easy. I delegated that task to someone who enjoys doing techy things, so that I could focus on what I enjoy most –writing.

One of the uncomfortable truths about our lives is that we only have so much time available. Every one of us has to make choices about how we use that time. Sometimes the demands are many and it can be hard trying to fit everything into the time we have available. That’s when we start juggling things and the stress starts to rise.

One of the most important lessons I have learned in my life is that I don’t have to do everything. When I have numerous responsibilities all competing for my time I can choose to delegate any or all of those responsibilities.

  • And it’s ok to delegate
  • And it’s ok to pay someone to do those things you can’t, or don’t want, to do.

I know from personal experience that it can be hard to delegate, especially if you tend towards taking on everything yourself. That used to be me! I just about killed myself trying to get everything done. Now I see delegating as a gift.

  • It gives others a chance to contribute.
  • It provides opportunities for others to learn and grow.
  • If I pay for a service it gives someone the chance to earn a living.
  • It lets me focus on the things that matter the most.

When we take things off our to do list and delegate, we create some blissful empty space in our lives. This space brings with it rest and peace. Don’t you hate the hurried, grumpy, miserable being that takes over your body when you have too much crammed into your schedule?

I’m still learning how to delegate, but it’s getting easier. Sometimes you just have to get creative.

  • Do you want to reconnect with family over for a meal, but don’t have the time or energy to cook? Why not offer family the opportunity to help cook or bring something for the meal?
  • Do you want a beautifully decorated house during the holidays, but also want to have time with your children?  Why not offer them the chance to do the decorating for you?
  • Do you want to take a leisurely walk with family, but have some vital household chores that need doing? Why not delegate some of those chores amongst family members and ditch the rest? Then go out for that walk.

Sure it may mean lowering your standards. It may mean things aren’t Pinterest perfect, but in my mind it’s a small price to pay for having time with family.

Is it time to look at your “to do” list and see what you might delegate? Do you find delegating hard? What do you do to make it easier?  Please share your wisdom in the comments below.

By the way if you want to start a blog, but are not sure how to set it up I would highly recommend the services of Robert Wall.Robert is the very talented tech guy who got me started and continues to help me with any technical problems. His fees are very reasonable and he is super good at what he does. You can catch up with him here.

16 thoughts on “The Fine Art of Delegating”

  1. I hear you! I have hired people to design my book covers and do my website techie stuff (I also use Robert Wall), and it has really helped me have the time and energy I need to focus on the business of writing. Personally, I’ve been starting to delegate more small household tasks to my daughters. It removes some of my stress, she is learning some good life skills. At the end of the day, we both have more time to relax and play together.

    1. That’s great Kayla! Studies indicate that that doing small household chores is a good way of boosting children’s self esteem. It seems like a win win situation to me!

  2. I was having a similar thought to day about not being able to do everything, but mine was more along the lines of choosing what you love most. There’s so many things I could do, but not everything I must do.
    Delegating is so helpful though. I do need to get better at it 🙂

    1. You are so right about choosing to do what you love most. That sounds like a post for another day 🙂 Thanks for visiting.

  3. Fab post, and I love that quote at the end! It’s so true, we can’t do everything. Especially when you’re a parent. Coming to terms with this fact and not trying to overstretch myself was one of my better moves…

    1. I think it’s one of the tougher things for many parents to accept, especially for Moms! I wonder why we do that to ourselves?

  4. I find it difficult being pulled in all directions and wanting to spend lots of quality family time, but also have lots of other things to do in the holidays. I need to work out what I can start delegating to my children now they are getting older.

    1. Hi Karen- you’ll be surprised how much you can delegate to your children 🙂 Sometimes the best way to start is to have them help you. That way you get one on one time and get some things done- win-win!

  5. Delegating is an art… that I am still trying to master 😉
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