Tired of battling Mom guilt? Here are 3 simple steps to help you stop feeling guilty and reclaim the joy of parenting. Let’s banish Mom guilt once and for all.
I’m going to be honest with you. Oftentimes I looked at other moms and wished I could be more like them.
You know those moms who calmly wait while their toddler examines every last stone? Well that wasn’t me!
Or that mom who had the squeaky clean house and immaculately dressed kids. I wasn’t like her either.
Becoming a parent is amazing. It is also one of the hardest things I have ever done. How I wish I had done things differently. I should have done better
- I wish I had been more patient
- Why didn’t I spend more time with my children?
- I should’ve been more present
- I ought to have given more hugs
The curse of mother guilt
Mother guilt is wretched. It reared its ugly head almost the instant I found out I was pregnant with my oldest and has been a constant companion since.
My boys grew into fine adults, but I still feel guilty about the way I raised them. I can list all the things I did badly and explain in detail how and where I failed. I don’t know if Dads suffer from the same affliction, but we Moms tend to be really hard on ourselves.
In a recent poll, 94 percent of moms admitted to feeling mom guilt.
That is a HUGE percentage.
All those moms feeling guilty.
Let’s banish mother guilt once and for all
Yesterday I saw this short video on Facebook. Women were invited to come in and described themselves as mothers. These women talked about their struggles, wished they could be better mothers, and expressed doubts about their abilities. Boy did I ever relate!
A few days later the mothers came back in to watch videos of their children talking about them. Take a moment and watch the video.
Did you cry?
Yeah me too!
Watching those Moms respond to their children’s comments touched something deep down inside of me.
Did you hear what the children said?
They knew how much their moms loved them.
Every child noticed all the things their moms did for them.
These kids looked right PAST the imperfections and talked about all the GREAT stuff their moms did.
All of them recognized their mom’s love.
Let us learn from the kids
Perhaps we can learn from this. Maybe we need to start looking at ourselves through our children’s eyes. Let’s focus on all the great things we do for our kids.
Let’s kick that mother guilt to the curb and recognize that we are already doing a great job.
Are you with me?
Three simple steps to banish Mom guilt?
- Focus on the great things you do for your kids. Name some of the seeds of love you planted in the last few days. (Say them out loud!)
- Acknowledge that you are not perfect.
- Affirm that your kids love you for who you are and that means you are ENOUGH. (Say it out loud.
Now go do something fun with your kids