My Community Wisdom series offers articles and quotes from the Internet community to help you in your parenting journey.
These articles are intended to inspire, encourage and maybe challenge you a little. There is no right way to parent and all parents have to decide what is right for their family. Still it is my hope that I will be able to offer you some wisdom from the on-line community to help you forge deeper relationships.
This month’s topic is DEALING WITH TRICKY PARENTING ISSUES.
It’s not always easy this parenting job. Is it? Sometimes you have to tackle issues that are really hard. Oftentimes there are no easy answers.
Searching for a topic on Google, and Pinterest can get overwhelming. And there is a lot of conflicting advice out there. I’ve gathered some articles that talk about some of these difficult issues. These are all written by parents speaking from personal experience. It is really easy to spout theories, but I wanted to hear from parents who had been through the struggles first hand.
“There are times as a parent when you realize that your job is not to be the parent you always imagined you’d be, the parent you always wished you had. Your job is to be the parent your child needs, given the particulars of his or her own life and nature.” Ayelet Waldman
When Your Toddler Bites
This must be one of the trickiest dilemmas for parents of preschoolers. It is so awful when your child is a biter. Particularly if you are doing all you can to create a peaceful and loving home. Lauren from Military Wife and Mom parents a toddler who bites. I really appreciated her practical suggestions and gentle encouragement. This is a mom who has been there. She reminds us that there is no magical cure-all, but you will see progress if you are consistent.
“Give your methods and interventions at least a few months to see progress. Yes, just progress. Not even that the biting is gone completely, but simply a few months to see that the biting is less than it was a few months prior.”
Read more at Military Wife and Mom
Preparing Your Child For the Death of Loved One
In a perfect world children wouldn’t have to face loss and grief. But the death of a loved one is something that many children will experience. Mandy at Barbie Bieber and Beyond talks about the illness of her uncle and the task of preparing her daughters for the loss of someone they loved. Mandy shares 7 tips to help prepare children to say a final goodbye. I valued her practical suggestions and believe they would be really helpful for any family facing this situation.
“So as we prepare to say a final goodbye this week, I will be watching my girls closely and reassuring them that although this is a very difficult time for our family, we will all be OK and In time will look back on nothing but the happy memories.”
Read more from Barbie Bieber and Beyond
Dealing With Night Terrors
One of my brothers had night terrors and it was horrible. Not for my brother as he had no recollection of anything the next day. But my poor parents found it very scary and difficult. Kate from Picklebums gives some helpful advice on this subject. Kate talks from personal experience as a number of her children had night terrors.
“Night terrors are pretty common with many children between the ages of 3 and 6 experiencing them at least once. Some children go through a phase of night terrors, but most grow out of them without any intervention or long term affects.
There doesn’t seem to be any one definite cause for night terrors so it’s not easy to prevent them, but there are a few things that might help before, and during a night terror and lots of ideas you can try.”
Read more from Picklebums
When Your Child Lies
Almost every parent will face this dilemma with their kids at some point. It is natural to feel betrayed, hurt, and angry. It can also be worrying. Amanda at Not So Cute has written an excellent post on the subject. First she talks about some of the reasons behind the behavior and then she provides some suggestions for dealing with lying. She also has a list of helpful reads on the subject. It is well worth the read.
“My son cut a hole in his t-shirt the other day. Well, according to him, the scissors were just walking on the counter when they walked right over to him and cut a hole in his shirt. Now, you and I know which scenario is most likely true, but does he? That gets complicated.”
Read more from Not So Cute
Parenting an Explosive Child
Creative With Kids has a wonderful guest post about parenting an explosive child. It is written by Shawn Fink who is the mother of twin girls both. One is calm and serene. The other can be very angry.
Jam packed with practical suggestions and helpful advice, this article is a really helpful resource for any parent dealing with an angry child. You are not alone.
“If I’m not brushing her concerns to the side, she’s more likely to calm down faster. She wants me to understand her and her frustrations. And while I always cared about her needs, I wasn’t showing that to her by sitting with her and helping her work through those very big feelings she gets.”
Read more from Creative With Kids
I hope you will find some helpful wisdom from the links I have posted today. I know that this is just the tip of the iceberg and there are many more issues that parents face. Have you found any posts that have helped you deal with a tricky parenting issue? Are there any specific issues you would like to see covered? Leave a comment below. I will be continuing this series with a different topic each month.
You can find a list of all the Community Wisdom topics I’ve explored here.