Sometimes when you are in the midst of raising children it can feel like hard work and drudgery.
- The noise
- The mess
- The dirt…how can there be so much dirt?
When my boys were little I remember longing for a break. Wondering what it would be like to clean the bathroom and have it STAY clean. Wondering what it would be like to only have a few loads of laundry each week. Wondering what it would be like to have a clear house. It sounded pretty good to me.
I recently discovered this poignant video that really hit my heart. Jason van Gendaren is a single father who only sees his children for one weekend (52 hours) every two weeks.
To help deal with his loneliness; Jason decided to document the moments just after his children leave. It is a beautiful video and captures the love and longing this father has for his children.
It’s not very long, so take a few minutes to watch. If you can’t see the video you can find it here.
Did the words of this lonely dad make you view the mess and clutter a little differently?
Perhaps this video encourages us to look at the evidence of our children’s presence as a gift instead of yet another mess. Maybe things like
- dirty hand prints
- scattered toys
- forgotten dinner plates left on the table
- unfinished craft projects left in a jumble
- shoes abandoned in the corner
- dried up beetles
- dropped towels
- a puddle of a pajamas forgotten behind the door
Are so much more than just messes. Perhaps they are sacred reminders that your children are still with you; that you still have time to reach out, to build relationship and make lasting connections.
I know how easy it is to get fed up with the constant mess and dirty fingerprints.
But when it is gone you will miss it.
So when you are faced with dropped towels, scattered toys, and dirty dishes pause for an instant to give thanks for the precious gift of your children’s presence.
Then before reminding them for the millionth time to pick up their stuff, take a moment to give them a hug and tell them how glad you are that they were born.