A few days after the New Year I put away the Christmas decorations. Christmas had been wonderful, but it was time to put it away for another season. There is a part of me that is always sad to see the Christmas decorations go down, but there is another part of me that likes to return to the simpler routines of ordinary life.
Almost immediately I started seeing Valentine’s Day popping up everywhere. Now I expect this in the stores. After all Valentine Day is a huge money-maker and I suppose it makes sense for the stores to push all that heart shaped stuff as early as possible. What I couldn’t quite reconcile was the number of Valentine Day blog posts I was seeing.
At this point February 14th was still SIX WEEKS AWAY.
Six weeks to go and post after post was promoting Valentines decorations, food, treats, gifts, crafts, printables, and even sensory bins.
I was quite astonished.
Now I want to be clear that I am not against Valentine’s Day. I am not comfortable with the more commercialized aspects of the celebration, but the idea of setting aside a day to acknowledge the gift of love in our life is wonderful. But do we need to start six weeks ahead of time?
I understand the need for celebrations, particularly at this time of year. Winter is long and dark and those celebrations are like little beacons of light. They give us something to look forward to and brighten up the days.
Still there is something to be said for taking a breath and enjoying the ordinary days in between these celebrations.
There is a simple beauty in those ordinary days. They provide us with a quiet space to create a life of deep connection and love, and of giving to others. A life where you have the time and the energy to be fully present with your family.
Celebrations are great, but they bring a certain amount of pressure and expectations with them.
Ordinary days give us time to lean into the daily rhythms of work, family, friends, and love. And instead of constantly looking for the next celebration, we can find happiness and contentment in that – because it is enough.
I understand that day-to-day life can be come rather mundane at times. It’s often tempting to think that we need to do something extraordinary in order to spice things up and make it a little bit more memorable.
Still I have found that when I am content in my ordinary days, I free up time and energy to embrace opportunity, create, be idle, and dream. And strangely that’s when unexpected and extraordinary things can happen.
And perhaps the same thing is true in our families. Perhaps we don’t need to be always rushing towards the next celebration, or the next special day. Instead we can simply relax and enjoy the quiet beauty of the simple day-to-day life with our families. And that’s when unexpected and truly wonderful things can happen. Things like deep soul connections, laughter, contentment, and true intimacy.
So I won’t be posting anything about Valentines Day until the week before – maybe we’ll see. Instead I will be writing and sharing resources to help you enjoy the ordinary days and make the most of the time you have with your family.
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