The sound of children’s laughter spilled out into the library. Drawn by the giggles I peek into the children’s room. There is a family playing with the toys in there. Mom and kids are so engrossed in the game that they don’t see me. I watch for a few seconds entranced by the sight. I love to see children relishing the time they have with their parents. Do you long for that kind of connection with your family?
I work in a library and I love to watch families connecting with each other. I can tell you so many stories of connection. Every single story makes my heart glad.
But I have also seen too many lost opportunities
Children trying valiantly to get Mom’s attention, until she snaps at them without looking up from her phone.
A little girl fighting back tears after she failed to get her dad to look at the wondrous book she had found. Dad was engrossed in his screen and didn’t hear her calling over and over.
Couples coming in for books who are so distracted by the constant pinging of their phone that they do not exchange one word with each other.
And the screens glowed on.
Leaving in their wake connection starved hearts.
Whenever I see these lost opportunities my heart breaks in two.
I want to stand up and yell, “Don’t you see what you doing? Don’t you care? Look up from your phone! Look up before it is too late. Don’t waste this chance.
I can tell you from personal experience that childhood passes by in a flash. Life is terribly short and can be over in a heartbeat. Those you love can be here one moment and gone the next. If you don’t connect today you may not get another opportunity?
Is your phone really more important than connecting with those you love?
Just as human beings need food and shelter, we need to belong to a group and form relationships. Your family desperately need to connect with you and you with them
The good news is that every interaction creates connection.
Every hug. Every conversation. Every game played. Every shared activity. Each shared joke.
It doesn’t have to be extraordinary or expensive.
Look up from your phone and do something to help you connect.
- Play with your children
- Do chores together
- Share a moment of silliness
- Have a cup of tea with your beloved
- Hold a dance party
- Read a story
- Enjoy some art activities that help you get to know each other better
- Blow bubbles
Do you long for deep connections with your family? Look up from your phone! Look up before it is too late. Do it now.