My Community Wisdom series offers articles and quotes from the Internet community to help you in your parenting journey.
These articles are intended to inspire, encourage and maybe challenge you a little. I believe there is no right way to parent and all parents have to decide what is right for their family. Still it is my hope that I will be able to offer you some wisdom from the on-line community that will help you forge deeper relationships.
This month’s topic is EMBRACING A SLOWER PACE Of LIFE.
How fast is your life moving? Do you ever wish you could slow it down? Do you feel that you need more hours in the day so you can get everything done? What if we stopped rushing and embraced a slower pace of life?
“Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going to fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.” Eddie Cantor
Did you know that a slower pace of life is good for the whole family?
I think we all recognize the benefits of not rushing our children through their days, but it is encouraging to know that the whole family will reap the benefits as well. Shawn Fink shares her journey towards a slower parenting style at Abundant Mama. I really enjoy her writing and the description of the slow Sunday at the start of this post fills me with longing.
“Holding hands. Talking slowly. Breathing deeply. Laughing joyfully. Smiling fully. These are the things that happen when we’re on the slow parenting path, the one where slow motherhood kicks in and we’re able to be all there, mind, body and spirit. This is when I feel my heart burst open with joy with my children. Those moments when we connect so deeply are the times when the most happiest motherhood moments rise up out of the dust of the ordinary and create memories we’ll remember forever.”
The Trap of Busyness
Do you get caught up in the caught up in ‘do more, have more’ mind set? Yup me too! Kate from Picklebums addresses this issue in her post. I really appreciate the reminder that more isn’t always best and we don’t need to pursue more because we can, or because we are afraid of missing out.
“We’ve noticed that trying to cram more things into our lives doesn’t actually make us any happier. Trying to fit more academics and more after school activities and more stuff into our children’s lives doesn’t make them happier either… or smarter… When I step out of the rat race and take a moment to slow down, I realise that it is in fact the opposite.”
Read more at Slow Days.
Some practical suggestions for families wanting to slow down
Sometimes when we are in the thick of rush and overwhelm it can be hard to figure out how to get out of the busyness trap and find our way to a calmer saner pace of life. Finding ways to slow down has become increasingly important to Liz Smith who writes at The Connected Life. In this post Liz suggests 12 actions that will help you find a slower pace of life. I really value the practical and simple suggestions that can easily be put into place.
“These days busyness no longer plagues me. Nor does the anxiety of not being enough. And while it may seem like a big mountain to climb, I know it is possible to free yourself from busyness and overwhelm.”
Read more at 12 Actions You Can do Today to be Less Busy Tomorrow
Resisting the urge to entertain our children
Your children have just enjoyed a fabulous day of activities and less than one hour after getting home they are walking around the house whining about having nothing to do. If this sounds familiar you will enjoy Kristen’s humorous post about the benefits of boredom and why she stopped being her children’s entertainment director. I know that this post isn’t specifically about slowing down, but if we resist the urge to fill every waking moment with activity we will automatically find a slower pace of life.
“Our children need to be bored. They need to kick their feet and wait outside of bathroom doors, unanswered. They need to be sent outside or to their rooms to play. They need to turn over the bag of tricks and find it empty. Because that’s when they will discover they don’t need stuff to fill their time.”
I hope you will find some helpful wisdom from the links I have posted today. Have you found any posts that have helped you embrace a slower pace of life? I will be continuing this series with a different topic each month.
You can find a list of all the Community Wisdom topics I’ve explored here.