Can you believe this is a child’s bedroom? I found it on Pinterest.
I have to admit that I am glad Pinterest wasn’t around when I was raising my children. Although it can be a wonderful source of ideas, a quick visit can leave you feeling totally inadequate as a parent.
Last week when I was thinking about this post I did a quick search on Pinterest for children’s birthday parties. Hundreds of pins popped into view, many of them quite astonishing.
There were decorations, games, crafts, food, and amazing cakes. Then there were the party bags, some of them hand-sewn! Many containing handcrafted favors, and intricately decorated cookies. It was quite amazing. Many of these parties would take hours and hours to prepare.
Then I did another search for children’s bedrooms and found a similar phenomenon. Myriads of pins showcasing exquisitely decorated children’s rooms that must have taken goodness knows how much time and money to create. I could see how ordinary parents might worry they just aren’t measuring up.
The time we have with our kids is limited
One of the realities we have to face is that we have a limited supply of time. We only have 24 hours a day in which to get things done and not a minute more. This means we all have to make careful choices about how we allocated those hours.
- Do we want to spend hours creating the perfect party, or would the time be better spent connecting with our families?
- Do we want to spend time and money creating a spectacular room complete with castle, or would it be better to spend that time with our children?
What your children will remember
I know how easy it is to get sucked into a “more is more” mentality, but is it really worth it? It’s time to take back the fun! A minimalist approach to family life dispenses with the fuss, expense and unrealistic expectations, so you can focus on your family relationships. The reality is that in the end, your children won’t remember the elaborate parties you organized for their birthdays. What they will remember is the
- books you read to them
- games you played together
- time you spent with them
- whether you were available to talk with
This is good news
This is good news for over stressed parents. If you want to be a great parent just let go of the Pinterest ideal and go play with your children.