I have to confess that I am a die hard Mam Mia fan, so when a fellow blogger shared one of the songs, and a reminder to be mindful of the precious moments we have with our children, it caught my attention.
This song (Slipping Through My fingers) has special memories for me. I went to see the movie Mama Mia with my mom. That doesn’t happen very often as we live thousands of miles apart, on two different continents, and I cannot see her very often. We treasure the rare moments we have together. I was in England when the movie came out and we went to see it together. When this song started she reached out and held my hand. It was a tender moment of connection between two moms who had experienced the truth captured by the lyrics.
“Slipping through my fingers all the time- I try to capture every minute -The feeling in it”
“Sleep in our eyes, her and me at the breakfast table – Barely awake I let precious time go by”
“Sometimes I wish that I could freeze the picture and save it from the funny tricks of time.”
If only we could freeze the moments of time
Do you ever wish you could freeze the moments of time you have with your children? If only we could! Still although we cannot stop time, we can slow down our days and learn how to treasure the precious moments we have together.
Life can get really busy for parents. It is all too easy to find yourself just going through the motions, moving mindlessly from one task to another, until you fall exhausted into your bed. Then the next day you drag yourself out of bed only to do it all again. Does that sound familiar? If this describes your life could I encourage you to stop right now and s-l-o-w down your life.
Enjoy the time you have right now
I have found that one of the most effective ways to do this is to start living in the present. Instead of focusing on all the things you need to do, learn how to put them aside and start enjoying the now with your children. I know – it’s a lot easier said than done. We don’t live in a culture that encourages this kind of mindfulness. Still if you can mange it even for a few moments a day you will see a difference in your connection with your children. Here are a few tips to help you get started.
- Disconnect from technology – turn off your phone, or the computer, or the television just for a little while. No matter how useful they are trechnology will distract us from being present with our children. Who, by the way, will notice when we are distracted.
- Silence the demands of the to do list by setting it aside- realize that what you have accomplished so far is good enough for today. Instead of focusing on getting it all done go and enjoy some time with your children. I must confess as a recovering perfectionist I continue to struggle to put this idea into practice. Still I have learned that silencing the list can be very liberating.
- Take the time to really notice your children while they are still with you. Be conscious of the dimples that appear when your baby smiles at you, or how your preschooler’s hand feels in yours, the funny faces your child makes when they are concentrating, or how your teenage daughter looks when talking animatedly about her day.
- Treasure the moments you have together – as much as possible put aside distraction and simply enjoy what you are doing together in the moment.
- If you enjoy writing use a journal to create a record of your days with your children. Write about the special moments you have with your children; record the funny and insightful things they say; describe the way they looked. One day these journal entries will hold a treasure trove of memories both for you and your children.
Spend Time With Your Children
All your children really want to do is to spend time with you. It doesn’t really matter what you do. If you are looking for some simple activities you can enjoy with your child. Try my e-book “Unplug.”
You can download it for free here!
The activities in the book don’t require much preparation, in fact many of them require NONE at all. Some require a few materials and a little planning, although not too much I promise. They will all help you spend time with your children. Treasure those moments.
Learn from your children
Learning how to live in the present does take practice and may seem difficult at first. If you want to learn more I would encourage you to turn to the experts you have living in your own home. Have you ever seen a child transfixed by a bug crawling across the grass, gleefully rolling down a hill, or splashing in puddles without a care in the world? Children have a gift for joyfully living in the moment. Watch and learn from them, then join them and do the same.
How do you slow down your days to enjoy time with your children? What do you find most challenging? Do you have any tips to share?
“The work will wait while you show the child the rainbow, but the rainbow won’t wait while you do the work.” Unknown
Editors note: this post was first published on August 13 2015